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• BruceWayne on 2026-06-29 01:12:11 (UTC)

  Hey there Eve. I’ve been a listener for a long time. I had a commenter account a long time ago, but forgot my password and ended up making a new one to comment here lol. Before I say anything else, thank you for for this series. Thanks for caring. Thanks for trying to help. And of course, thanks for all of the hot audios haha. This might be a bit of a ramble. I hope I make sense. I could relate to alooottttt of what you said in this audio, and the previous one, I’m a guy who is terrified at the idea of coming across to women as creepy, invasive, etc. And I think that for a lot of guys like myself, showing ANY sign of interest in a woman feels like a slight risk. Like it might be unwelcome, make her uncomfortable, offend, etc. So ultimately the “safest” thing to do, for her comfort, (and my emotional well -being too, because the prospect of rejection is scary.), is just not make a move. I just assume she’s not interested unless it is VERY obvious.

  • BruceWayne on 2026-06-29 01:22:07 (UTC)

    And with a couple of notable exceptions that I’m grateful for, I’ve never felt confident enough that a woman was interested in me, even if she might have been. She might be sending a signal, but even if it’s obvious to her, and promising to me, I think “What if I’m misreading this?” So I just…..don’t act. The things you mention in the audio, such as being very direct, and physical touch, would make me soooo much more confident that a woman might have interest in me. And I feel extremely fortunate that I have a woman in my life right now who seems to be doing these things. (But even then, it’s easy to second guess!)

    • BruceWayne on 2026-06-29 01:33:54 (UTC)

      I thunk maybe one important thing here is that both sexes want to feel safe. For men, there’s not necessarily such a fear for physical safety that many women experience. But certainly a yearning for emotional safety. To express how I feel, to be tender, affectionate, emotional, etc and not risk turning her off or worse. I think many men are trying to reconcile “traditional” masculinity that we have been taught to embody, and taught that women want, with a more “modern” form of masculinity that places more emphasis on mental/ emotional health, communication, consent and vulnerability. And it’s hard to merge those 2 ideologies. A lot of guys wonder “Which type of man does she want me to be right now? Am I allowed to be both? HOW?” And I think if women are able to let men know that they are safe, that helps so alot. Also Ladies, we LOVE being flirted with, please don’t stop. We just have trouble trusting that flirting is actually happening, so please mix in the more obvious cues!