Eve's Guide For Regular Guys: Episode 3 - Building Your Foundation

24:43 Eve's Guide For Regular Guys episode 3 / 19 Jan 28, 2017 14 comments 12689 2878

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This week I want to start building up your foundation...but slowly. Easily. With a couple of simple mental exercises that hopefully will help you to start seeing yourself in a different way.

music by Ben Sound

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  • MoonlightDreamer on 2017-02-03 22:27:36 (UTC)

    Really enjoying these helpful guides and advice Eve. You say your not a Psychologist but you talk so much sense and understand that it's just not as easy as those self help books try to make out. I think a lot of peole and many guys really don't know who they are and are winging it through life, trying to work it.

    It is hard and being someone who suffers from Depression and Anxiety, I've struggled for so many years with finding myself, having confidence in what I would say or do and letting others see the real me. So your advice really is making me think about things in a new way so a big thanks for that... plus your voice is so relaxing that it feels like a nice chat with a lovely friend.

    Looking forward to episode 4

    • A Eve on 2017-02-03 23:29:52 (UTC)

      Thank you, that's so lovely of you. I'm so glad you're enjoying the series ❤️

  • leytod on 2017-02-02 16:17:50 (UTC)

    Another great episode. I love the skill of your voice; you speak so very well.

    The cut-in-line scenario was interesting. I have heard of similar mental exercises in sports, where, for example, a basketball athlete meditating on making baskets showed improvement similar to athletes actually practising.

    Personally, I generally tell myself, "These are the bullshit moments the Game of Life throws at you. Are you going to let it tilt you or can you keep playing?"

    Finally, a critique. I've noted that you sometimes water-down your advice with disclaimers and conditions. For example, the "don't go Steven Segal" provision. I'm discouraged that there may be ears in your class that need such fine-tuned teaching. I might suggest that such people are not "Regular Guys" whom should be listening to Eve's Guide For Regular Guys. I like your confident voice and words. You're excellent at it. Listening to you speak confidently makes me feel confident. When you double-back on yourself, I feel nervous that the heroine is doubting her way.

    • A Eve on 2017-02-02 20:47:03 (UTC)

      I’m not expressing self doubt when I say things like that - I’m pointing out pitfalls so that people don’t take my advice and apply it across the board, in all situations. Like Jeromia said below, he can imagine people thinking they should be outraged at slow drivers whom they cut off, etc.

      Don’t worry, I couldn’t produce my audios, the Under the Covers series, or this new series if I didn’t confidently believe everything I’m saying.

  • MadWithLust on 2017-02-01 22:49:15 (UTC)

    I love the baby step approach! You make this so much more manageable!

    And the second exercise sounds really good! I never really get past working up the nerve so even if I did, I wouldn't really know what even to say. I do love the idea of working on being quicker with the wits.

    • A Eve on 2017-02-02 20:48:01 (UTC)

      I think once you get in the habit of thinking of what needs to be said, you'll find you can do it in other situations too, and you might not be so hesitant to speak up. I've had some success with it, at least :P

  • Jeromia on 2017-01-31 15:32:28 (UTC)

    Great advice Eve, especially about turning negative events into a self-improvment exercise! Only awesome people like you could turn those pesky line-cutters into a means of self-improvment. It's like a neat sharpening tool for emotional mini crisis-management or something.

    Though, I can imagine at least ONE person taking this excersise and going wayyyy overboard with it and believing that the whole world owes them everything... "Wow! That guy sure was rude not slowing down his car when I was cutting in his lane at 130km/hr! He should have given me way!"

    • A Eve on 2017-02-01 14:13:38 (UTC)

      haha, that's why I put that 'No Steven Segal' proviso in there. You have to be reasonable about this :D

  • Jandrusel on 2017-01-29 23:05:37 (UTC) (edited)

    Oh, how hard it is to remember and celebrate every single one of your strengths and virtues.Especially when the sadness kicks in. In those times, I feel like, no matter how my great my achievements are, they're meaningless because I haven't found a girl who loves me.

    This episode is the perfect reminder that I don't need to be so hard on myself. Instead, I should give thanks for the great things I can do. Bless you, Eve. You nerdy, wise and sexy woman.

    • A Eve on 2017-01-30 21:37:26 (UTC)

      hahha nerdy, wise and sexy....my work here is done :P 💋

  • billymacorbuddy on 2017-01-28 23:13:09 (UTC)

    You may not be a therapist Eve, but you've gotten me to think about myself in ways I normally would not have, and that in itself is therapeutic. Thank you.

    • A Eve on 2017-01-30 21:38:00 (UTC)

      You're very welcome, that's what I'm trying to do with this series, just make you think in new ways 💋

  • illegalbandit on 2017-01-28 22:14:12 (UTC)

    Great advice as always Eve, thanks for doing this series i'm really enjoying it.

    • A Eve on 2017-01-30 21:38:26 (UTC)

      I'm very glad 💋