Loving Life...pleasure and peace for the grieving

20:30 special audio Mar 04, 2018 27 comments 41680 7339

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I got a request from someone today, and it really touched me that they came to me for help dealing with a loss. I've had a few requests for an audio like this, an audio to help men who are grieving, and I've wanted to do this for quite a while.

I was never sure about it, though, never quite sure if I was up to the task - it's a delicate thing, dealing with someone's mourning, dealing with issues of loss, and grief, and combining it with life-affirming sexuality in a respectful way.

So I just hit record and improvised. I hope this is helpful to those who have suffered a loss, whether it's fresh and raw or something you've been dealing with for a long time. I don't focus on the loss, instead I help you reconnect with the miracle of life, and how amazing it feels to be alive and vital and feel pleasure.

This may also be appropriate for those going through depression or a loss of that spark in life - in the end, I hope you just lie back and bliss out, feeling all the amazing emotions and sensations life gives you.


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  • LoganWynnWales090 on 2023-08-30 03:40:16 (UTC)

    “ When your day is long And the night, the night is yours alone When you're sure you've had enough Of this life, well hang on

    Don't let yourself go 'Cause everybody cries Everybody hurts sometimes

    Sometimes everything is wrong Now it's time to sing along When your day is night alone (hold on, hold on) If you feel like letting go (hold on) If you think you've had too much Of this life, well hang on

    'Cause everybody hurts Take comfort in your friends Everybody hurts

    Don't throw your hand, oh no Don't throw your hand If you feel like you're alone No, no, no, you are not alone..

    If you're on your own in this life The days and nights are long When you think you've had too much Of this life to hang on

    Well, everybody hurts sometimes Everybody cries Everybody hurts, sometimes And everybody hurts sometimes So hold on, hold on Hold on, hold on, hold on Hold on, hold on, hold on

    Everybody hurts..🩶🖤🩵”

    • A Eve on 2023-08-30 19:28:21 (UTC)


      • LoganWynnWales090 on 2023-08-31 14:29:05 (UTC)

        Yes! They’re probably a Top 5 group for me ever. My favorite release of theirs is Murmur, but Automatic for the People is stellar, I have it on cassette! It really feels like Michael Stipe is singing to you personally..🖤🩶

        • A Eve on 2023-09-01 15:43:18 (UTC)

          I think Turn You Inside Out is my favourite of theirs

          • LoganWynnWales090 on 2023-09-01 23:09:28 (UTC) (edited)

            Oooh, from Green! 🟢🟠 Love that one too; my favorite from that one is either World Leader Pretend or Get Up! But my favorite R.E.M. song in general is Find the River..🥹🩶🖤

  • Vermouth1991 on 2018-03-13 19:36:43 (UTC) (edited)

    Nothing like trying to hold back tears and sobs and an impending orgasm at the same time. But when the goddess in your bed asks you to, you'd be so loved there's no better way to repay her than to let the floodgates go, cry out and release the pent-up loads behind your erection. 😶

    • A Eve on 2018-03-17 00:23:12 (UTC)

      aww...I knew this would be a very different kind of audio, I hope it wasn't too much :(

      • Vermouth1991 on 2018-03-18 05:24:51 (UTC) (edited)

        I love it very much. I just hope that the guy who once commented on your Male Gaze episode would hear this too. He's gone through the loss of a significant other, while I "only" lost family members but not a girlfriend or fiancée so it might be different.

        • A Eve on 2018-03-29 11:57:23 (UTC)

          I hope so too, there are a few people I really hope listen to this and get something out of it. It's not something I want to approach people with, but I hope they find it.

  • erik666 on 2018-03-08 01:42:05 (UTC)

    Tearing up.... Thank you eve So much for your beautiful words,i needed this

    • A Eve on 2018-03-09 15:46:10 (UTC)

      Aww, I hope you feel better soon ❤️

  • Dezro125 on 2018-03-06 00:20:12 (UTC)

    Thank you Eve. I needed something like this. Wishing you a lovely week.

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:14:37 (UTC)

      Same to you 💋

  • SamuelXD on 2018-03-05 20:43:51 (UTC)

    I actually needed this. I had a crazy weekend and needed something mellow me out. Luckily this did the trick 😌

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:14:55 (UTC)

      I'm very glad to hear it, I was hoping this would be soothing for everyone 😘

  • billymacorbuddy on 2018-03-05 15:56:29 (UTC)

    A very unexpected topic, but a very soothing audio. Sometimes that's all a person needs.

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:15:11 (UTC)

      Thanks Billy, I'm glad you liked it.❤️

  • ShadowMoon on 2018-03-05 12:34:20 (UTC)

    There was a movie that came out called Collateral Beauty. It's about a father overcoming the loss of his daughter. The movie teaches that sometimes it takes a lost connection, even a separation by death, to make us see all of the other connections around us - to people, to nature, to everything. Those connections remind us how to live.

    I think you've shown that concept here in how the miracle of an intimate connection through sex can make us feel alive. Having someone there to hold, to feel their heartbeat, to touch and by touched by, and to give and take pleasure is healing. Even if we are alone, the pleasure itself can remind us how alive we are. We need a reminder that we deserve to feel pleasure, especially in the midst of pain.

    I have lost so many connections in my life, for sometimes petty and sometimes uncontrollable reasons. I hope to find some that last. Thank you for this beautiful reminder of connection and pleasure. You are a miracle. Don't ever forget it. 💛😘

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:15:41 (UTC)

      Aww, that's very sweet of you! Thank you! 💋

  • cuddle_with_me on 2018-03-05 07:15:04 (UTC)

    This is beautiful. 💖

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:15:52 (UTC)

      Thank you cuddles! 🐥

  • CharlieRomeoLima on 2018-03-05 04:39:50 (UTC)

    When one of my family passed too soon I remember feeling numb at the time, and for years afterward I thought there was something wrong with this lack of emotional reaction, until I learned that grief manifests in diverse ways and that there's no prescription for mourning. Your decision to improv was the most true-to-life way to treat this, for don't we all feel like we're improvising when struggling to find the right words to soothe and comfort another?

    Imagining what it'd be like to inhabit this scenario, I like to think I'd find it easier to embrace my sorrow for the lost without drowning in it. That I can be grateful to still have someone around who cares so deeply as to do something so sweet for me. You nailed this Eve, in a loving way that is uniquely you.

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:18:11 (UTC)

      Thank you so much C! You're right, when I experienced a terrible loss a few years ago, I stopped trying to find meaning in it, or any kind of comfort really. I just viewed it as almost pointless suffering that just had to be gotten through. I don't know if it helped, but I think maybe it didn't prolong the grief, like it sometimes does when people look for some purpose in it, or expect to feel something from it.

  • MrSlayer3010 on 2018-03-05 01:52:57 (UTC)

    Aw Eve! 🌷 🌷 I love this kind of positive this audios are. You make me feel so loved and sexy! Really thanks miss Eve for your hard work! 😘 🌷 🌺

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:16:08 (UTC)

      You're very welcome, thank you for listening!

  • Matthew on 2018-03-05 01:26:25 (UTC) (edited)

    Dear Mis Eve Thank you so so much you seem to say and do right things every time, you sound as smooth as silk your lips 💋are like velvet, you make me feel so sensuous all over and your kisses caress my body and my senses all over it best sensation i've felt in ages please let me rest be side you, you help me put my life in prospective, because I Lost a close member of my family and listening to this brought it all back to me , you're the most sensitive caring woman i've ever known you make me forget my worries and help depression about being lonely , and you're such a great listener because i can tell you things that i can't tell my closest family and for that you will always be so special lol xxxx (you're one of a kind xxx)😘🌹🌻 Please let me know if i cross the line with my comments Thanks💝 Eve 💝😃😘

    • A Eve on 2018-03-07 14:16:41 (UTC)

      I'm very glad I can help Matthew. Don't worry, I speak my mind pretty freely, as you've seen :P