I can only speak for myself, but for me the word ’cunt’ is just the most highly sexually charged way of saying pussy - I equate it with saying ’cock’ instead of ’dick’. I grew up in North America where I know it’s seen as one of the worst insults, and even though I live in Europe now (where it can be much more common and not as ’bad’ a word) I do understand how some people - usually men - have a knee jerk reaction to it.
On the one hand they like how sexual it is, especially when used by a woman, but on the other hand they recoil from it almost by instinct, the way they would if their pastor started saying ’fuck’ during the sermon. It’s just a personal choice for me, something I feel comfortable using when I’m doing a particularly spirited audio.
As for the idea of ’re-claiming’ words like slut, queer etc - I am all for that, and if a woman can reclaim the word ’cunt’ and stop it from being an insult (the way most references to ’pussy’ and ’cunt’ are insults, especially from one man to another). For me personally, I don’t apply ’re-claiming’ to words like ’dirty’, ’filthy’ or ’naughty’ because they already have strong meanings outside of sex that we still use. When they are used to describe sex, they are used because we know what else they mean - we are intentionally calling sex dirty or filthy, knowing full well what dirty and filthy usually mean in our language.
’Slut’ originally meant a housemaid, but hasn’t for about 200 years, and ’queer’, meaning ’odd’, and ’gay’ meaning ’happy’ were words already falling out of usage in North America and Britain, where they had been fairly common. To re-purpose those words for sexual purposes was easy, there is no current or common ’other meaning’ for them that will bring up automatic associations the way ’filthy’ does.
Again, this is just a personal choice for me, and my personal approach to sexual language. I will tag my audios with 'use of the word cunt' from now on for anyone who is uncomfortable hearing it in an audio.
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